The Gift of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful things we can ever do. True forgiveness involves reclaiming your own power. The person whom you are forgiving is a person you have been granting an unreasonable amount of power over you. I remember a friend of mine who was raised by an alcoholic father, who constantly went on and on about how he had ruined her life. This woman was 55 years old. She had not seen her father in more than 30 years. He had been dead for 20 years. And yet, she was still giving him power over her happiness. She was blaming him for the unhappiness that she still had in her life.

I’m not saying that her father did not mistreat her and her mother. From her stories, I know that he truly made her life miserable. However she has continued to make herself miserable by clinging to memories of those old events and not forgiving him.

If she had been able to forgive him and move forward, she would’ve reclaimed her own power over her happiness. Her happiness is her responsibility, not the responsibility of a man who has been dead for 20 years. If she ever realizes that, her capacity for happiness will be enormous.

My own mother had never forgiven my father for his cruelty to the day she died in 2011. My father had died in 1982 and my parents had been divorced since 1967. And during all of those years, my mother’s bitterness toward my father never waned. Needless to say, she was a very unhappy person most of the time. When you allow yourself to feel bitterness towards another person, that bitterness spills over into the rest of your life and poisons it in a way that severely reduces your ability to be happy.

Is has been said many times, that “the moment of power is now.” What that means is that it is only in the present, right here, right now, that you can exercise your power to change your life. The past is gone. The future has not yet arrived. You cannot operate from a point of power in either the past or the future. If you are allowing your grudges and negative feelings to keep you in the past, you are keeping yourself from the now. You are keeping yourself from the only place where you can exercise real power.

The biggest gift that forgiveness brings is not to the person being forgiven. It is the gift of freedom to the person doing the forgiving. When you truly forgive, you are free to move forward. You are no longer tied to that heavy anchor of blame that holds you back. When we give up all of the grudges and bad feelings that we hold for others, it is very much like shedding hundreds of pounds of weight.

You can give yourself this gift right now. Start forgiving everyone for everything. Especially forgive yourself. Forgive your parents. Forgive your siblings. Forgive your children. Forgive your grandparents. Forgive your coworkers. Forgive the politicians and news media. Forgive everyone for everything. When you step into your power by releasing all of that negativity, you will realize there was nothing to forgive. And the fact that you have forgiven is a great gift for you, as it releases everything that was holding you back.

Gratitude Attitude

I know a lot has been written about the power of gratitude to change one’s life. Even so, I don’t think anyone can ever say too much about it. Practicing gratitude for everything in your life is at the foundation of a spiritual existence.

We come from Source. Source is our source. And the source of everything in our lives, including what we have, what we think, how we live, and what we allow into our consciousness. Everything that flows into our lives comes as a result of the law of attraction.

This law of attraction could just as easily be called “Resonance.”  If you put two pianos in a room that are properly tuned, and you play the middle C note on one piano, you will see that the string for middle C is also vibrating on the other piano.  That is because the two strings resonate to each other.  The activation of one automatically activates the other.

Just as the strings on the piano vibrate, and therefore resonate to each other, our thoughts vibrate and resonate to the corresponding situations. Thoughts of gratitude bring more things to be grateful for. Thoughts of lack attract more thoughts which are conscious of how much we lack, and therefore create or attract more situations of lack.

Gratitude is probably the most important thing you can start with if you want to improve the circumstances of your life. Be grateful that you have air to breathe, that you can read, that there are so many wonderful things in this life to explore.

I am in the process of finishing my new book about gratitude  ( I call it Gratitude Attitude), which I hope will be published within a few months.  The wonderful thing about working on this book, is that it keeps me in a state of awareness of the importance of gratitude and of how much I have to be grateful for.

I have visited some of the poorest areas in the world, and I guarantee that if you are in a first world country, you have much to be grateful for. There are so many people in the world who do not even have the most basic needs met. And those of us in the modern countries who have our basic needs met have much to be grateful for. Expressing gratitude for even the smallest thing such as enough food to eat, will help bring more things into your life for which you can express gratitude.

Think of five things every day that you are grateful for. Write them down. And express thanks that these are in your life.

Creativity is Divine

Creativity comes in an unlimited number of forms. It can be as simple as changing a recipe, or as complex as designing massive art and sculpture. For all of us, when we tap into our creativity, we are tapping into source at a very pure level.

There is a very creative man named Michael Grab who does rock sculptures near the area where I live. He does not use any mortar, or glue, and yet he creates amazing compositions using rocks. He says he finds the place where the rock wants to be balanced. He calls that the tripod within the rock.

I have posted a few pictures from his site, GravityGlue.com. I hope you find these as amazing and inspirational as I do. They look so impossible. And yet they exist.

Mr. Grab has reminded me that impossible only exists in the mind. Creativity is always the answer to any “impossible” situation.

I hope you enjoy these photos. You can visit his website for even more inspiration.

a rock bridge made without mortar or glue

rock composition made without mortar or glue

a rock sphere balancing on a mountain, made without mortar or glue

rock spires precariously balanced over a stream, made without mortar or glue

Finding Equilibrium

The past year, for many people I know (including myself) has been about facing big challenges and losses — then finding some equilibrium among the remains. I went through some health challenges for several months last year. I had problems keeping food down. My gall bladder was in full rebellion. For over a month, I was too sick to sit at my computer and write posts.

Before I felt fully recovered, I had to make emergency trips to Kansas to care for my mother. She died in September of leukemia. It was two days before my birthday. I was raw and fragile from the experience for quite awhile. Then, I heard news about people I didn’t know that affected me deeply. Even though I did not know them, I felt a personal sense of loss. I know that some of that sense of loss was because I was (and am) still in the midst of grieving for my mother.

Steve Jobs died on October 5. The news, though not unexpected, caused me to sense a deep loss. I admired many things about Steve Jobs. I have been a Mac user for a long time. I have not used any other platform since 1988. I write my blog on a Mac, I write and layout books on a Mac, I edit sound and video on a Mac and I even do astrology on a Mac. Almost everything I do for my livelihood is done on a Mac, so the passing of the visionary who created my tools was deeply felt.

Then, Jerry Hicks died on November 18 of leukemia. Continue reading

New Spirit Guides Book

Spirit Guides Front CoverI’m really pleased to announce the publication of my book, Spirit Guides (2nd Edition). Spirit Guides teaches you how to contact your Spirit Guides and receive the information and help that they can provide. Spirit Guides was previously published in the 1990s, and sold thousands of copies.

In this second edition, I have added additional material, re-worked existing material and rearranged chapters to make an updated system for contacting guides. It is available as a paperback book on CreateSpace.com and on Amazon.com and is available as a Kindle Book, as well.

The book and available guided meditations show you how to recognize your own unique way of experiencing your guides, so that you will feel the joy and power of making contact.

There are scripts for the guided meditations provided at the end of this book so you can record them in your own voice or have a friend read them for you, to guide you through the process of meeting your guide(s).

You can also purchase a CD of the Spirit Guides guided meditations or download them as MP3 files.

This book is full of useful information to help seekers make contact with their guides. Chapters in Spirit Guides cover topics such as:

* What a Spirit Guide is.
* What forms guides can take.
* Why guides are with you.
* How it feels to make contact.
* Preparation for making contact.
* Overcoming fear and resistance.
* Scripts of guided meditations.
* And much more!

New Years Bring New Opportunities

Every new year sees us making resolutions about things we want to change, or do differently in the future. Obviously, a new year is no different from a new day or a new hour. We can choose any moment in our lives to go forward in a new fashion.

We don’t have to wait for a new year to start a new life. Every single moment we have in the now is an opportunity to change our lives. However, many people see New Year’s, birthdays and other anniversaries as points of new beginnings. Whether it is for the new year or just because you’ve decided to change your life, you can start a new here and now.

I suggest that you sit down and make a list of the things you would like to change in your life. Perhaps make two columns; one column for how things are now and the second column for how you want them to be. If your list is long, try to only tackle one or two things at a time. Once you get those things under control, then address a new item on the list.

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Transitioning From This Life

It has been almost two weeks since my mother passed from this life. I was with her for the final week 24 hours a day, seven days a week. She lived in another state from me, so I wasn’t with her on a regular basis.

When I wrote my last post, I had been in Kansas for about nine days taking care of my mother. When that time ended, we thought she was out of the woods and on the mend. But, it wasn’t too much longer until I got emergency phone calls and the final phone call that she needed to be in hospice.

That last week was a difficult week in many ways. And it was a magnificent gift. I loved my mother, as I’m sure almost everyone does. But, I didn’t always like her. She was very judgmental, racist, and always quick to tell you what was wrong with everyone. When she was alive, I often felt negative thoughts toward her because of her anger and judgmentalness. In effect, I was being angry and judgmental at her because she was being angry and judgmental at other people.

During that last week, because we knew the time was short, I didn’t find myself getting caught up in her negativity. It was still there, to be sure. But, I realized that this was truly the last time I was going to have with her here on this physical plane. I was not going to waste any of that time getting wrapped up in her negativity, or judging her negativity.

As she progressed from being lucid to being unresponsive, I found myself thinking about some of those big questions. What is life, anyway? What is consciousness? When she was dying, did the part of her that was ego – personality based give way to a higher conscious self?

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Become More Effective by Finding Peace

Everyone is multi-tasking these days. They are tethered to their “Crackberries,” iPhones, iPads, smart phones and computers, so they are sending eMails at all hours. Even when they are supposed to be “at leisure,” they are mailing and texting during meals at restaurants, movies, baseball games, family outings, while driving, during classroom lectures, in the bathroom (both public and private), and in some cases, even during sex.

Years ago, there was a promise that technology would make us more productive. There are some ways in which it has made us more productive — I can edit this article without having to type it over from scratch, as I would have done before word processing programs existed. I can sell my domain names to people halfway around the world by using the internet, eMail and PayPal.

But there is a dark side — technology has enabled “spammers” to fill our in boxes with masses of junk. In some cases, the junk mail is so overwhelming that it causes people to lose their important messages among the spam.

Technology promised to give us more leisure time, as well. Presumably, the more leisure time was a result of having gotten all of our work done earlier than before. However — studies have shown that people (who are fortunate enough to have a job these days) are working more hours than ever. Obviously, in the workplace, one must do the bidding and put out all the little “fires” that the employer commands. But it is well documented that people end up doing a lot of things poorly when required to multi-task all the time. The human brain is not structured for it.

Yesterday, I saw a woman walking through a traffic-filled parking lot into a store. She had a baby cradled in her right arm, a toddler by the hand with her left arm, and her neck was bent to hold the cell phone between her ear and shoulder so she could carry on a conversation. There is no way she was giving adequate attention to either child. She was not watching for traffic as she crossed. But she was deeply engaged in a phone call that pulled most of her attention elsewhere.

The sad thing is that most people are unaware that they are performing poorly on multiple tasks. They don’t have that insight because too much of their brain is occupied trying to multi-task. And it is becoming evident that all of these short bursts of technological communication are making many people attention deficient.

What is the answer to this dilemma? Continue reading

Attitude is Everything

Below is a four-minute video about how our attitude is the basis for our thoughts, which aggregate and become beliefs. The beliefs become the framework for our reality. Our attitude generates the emotions that color and fill in the framework with a “reality” that seems quite solid, tough it is but an illusion.

Change your attitude — change the illusion.

Text copyright © 2010 by Victoria Young

7 Steps for Surviving Holiday Mercury Retrograde

Mercury goes retrograde two weeks before Christmas (December 11, 2010) in North America. Most astrologers consider the two weeks leading up to the retrograde motion to be somewhat “iffy” in terms of progress or making agreements, signing contracts, etc. as well.

As a double Virgo (Mercury rules Virgo), I have long been aware of and affected by Mercury Retrogrades. There always seem to be hiccups related to communications, agreements and contracts. Lots of delays, misunderstandings and indecisive people. It is also common for communications devices — computers, cell phones, etc., to act up.

Mercury retrograde periods are not good for starting projects that require several people to communicate effectively and be on the same page.

The retrograde continues through New Year’s Eve (throughout the world), so it is quite possible for people to misunderstand details about where they are meeting to celebrate, etc.

Mercury’s retrograde motion ends on December 29, 2010. During this retrograde (on December 21), we get a Lunar Eclipse. It’s corresponding Solar Eclipse will be January 4, 2011 — only a few days after Mercury Retrograde ends. Eclipses are about endings and clearing the way for new beginnings, sometimes abruptly. Having the eclipses coincide with Mercury retrograde can make for some real confusion around the holidays.

Mercury retrograde is GOOD for revisiting old unresolved issues and taking care of them once and for all. It seems the retrograde motion is compatible with going back energetically to deal with unfinished business. New business that is still unfinished — not so much.

Taking all that into consideration, here are my coping strategies to deal with the Holiday Mercury Retrograde:

  • Don’t start a business or initiate major projects until January 14, 2011.
  • If at all possible, postpone signing contracts, agreements, leases, etc. until about January 20, as well. If not possible to delay, make sure your lawyers scour the documents with a fine-toothed comb, checking and double-checking to make sure it says what you think it does.
  • Backup your computers and smart phones.
  • Double check your answering machines.
  • Make sure your batteries are strong in important devices, including your car.
  • Take great care in double checking party and celebration plans to make sure all participants have the same notion of what you’re doing.
  • Spend the necessary time to take care of old, unfinished business that pops up.

After all of these precautions, anything that arises should be minimal.

Copyright © 2009-2010 by Victoria Young