Announcing New Book!

Cover-101-Mantras-for-Self-EsteemI am very happy to announce the publication of my newest book, 101 Mantras For Self-Esteem. This is the first in a series of books that will each have 101 mantras or more.

101 Mantras For Self-Esteem contains more than 101 mantras (affirmations) to help people develop improved self-esteem. Self esteem and confidence in oneself are critical factors for success in every aspect of one’s life.

This self help book has useful chapters about the nature of self-esteem and about how the author has overcome her own issues, in part by using mantras. There is also a very nicely presented chapter on how to use mantras to improve your life.

A Mantra is a sound, a syllable, a word, phrase or sentence that you repeat over and over to achieve a state of being or a state of mind. In this case, Victoria is using the word “Mantra” to describe words and phrases that are repeated in order to release (and eventually eliminate) self-limiting beliefs. (Some people prefer to use the word “Affirmation” to describe the same thing. Mantras are very powerful tools for changing the way we believe (and therefore act) regarding our possibilities and opportunities.

Good Self-Esteem (believing in yourself, recognizing your value, honoring your talents and possibilities) is a basic requirement to achieve goals in life. Most people with low self-esteem won’t even try, or they claim victimhood when their efforts fall short. The Mantras and quotes in this book can be a part of your commitment to claim your power, raise your self-esteem and let go of your limiting beliefs about yourself. High self-esteem is necessary to achieve higher levels of success.

This 256-page book will also be available in the near future in the EPUB and Kindle formats on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and iTunes. I will update with links when it becomes available in the new formats.

Victoria Young is an author, teacher and psychic medium whom Hans King called, “One of the finest mediums in the country.” Victoria has been using Mantras for over 30 years. She wrote Spirit Guides; Communicating With Your Unseen Friends, and produced a CD with the same title that contains guided meditations to help people contact their own guidance. Victoria lives and writes in Colorado.

Watch for more upcoming books in the 101 Mantras series. For more information, visit 101Mantras.com and VictoriaYoung.com

The Gift of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful things we can ever do. True forgiveness involves reclaiming your own power. The person whom you are forgiving is a person you have been granting an unreasonable amount of power over you. I remember a friend of mine who was raised by an alcoholic father, who constantly went on and on about how he had ruined her life. This woman was 55 years old. She had not seen her father in more than 30 years. He had been dead for 20 years. And yet, she was still giving him power over her happiness. She was blaming him for the unhappiness that she still had in her life.

I’m not saying that her father did not mistreat her and her mother. From her stories, I know that he truly made her life miserable. However she has continued to make herself miserable by clinging to memories of those old events and not forgiving him.

If she had been able to forgive him and move forward, she would’ve reclaimed her own power over her happiness. Her happiness is her responsibility, not the responsibility of a man who has been dead for 20 years. If she ever realizes that, her capacity for happiness will be enormous.

My own mother had never forgiven my father for his cruelty to the day she died in 2011. My father had died in 1982 and my parents had been divorced since 1967. And during all of those years, my mother’s bitterness toward my father never waned. Needless to say, she was a very unhappy person most of the time. When you allow yourself to feel bitterness towards another person, that bitterness spills over into the rest of your life and poisons it in a way that severely reduces your ability to be happy.

Is has been said many times, that “the moment of power is now.” What that means is that it is only in the present, right here, right now, that you can exercise your power to change your life. The past is gone. The future has not yet arrived. You cannot operate from a point of power in either the past or the future. If you are allowing your grudges and negative feelings to keep you in the past, you are keeping yourself from the now. You are keeping yourself from the only place where you can exercise real power.

The biggest gift that forgiveness brings is not to the person being forgiven. It is the gift of freedom to the person doing the forgiving. When you truly forgive, you are free to move forward. You are no longer tied to that heavy anchor of blame that holds you back. When we give up all of the grudges and bad feelings that we hold for others, it is very much like shedding hundreds of pounds of weight.

You can give yourself this gift right now. Start forgiving everyone for everything. Especially forgive yourself. Forgive your parents. Forgive your siblings. Forgive your children. Forgive your grandparents. Forgive your coworkers. Forgive the politicians and news media. Forgive everyone for everything. When you step into your power by releasing all of that negativity, you will realize there was nothing to forgive. And the fact that you have forgiven is a great gift for you, as it releases everything that was holding you back.

Finding Inspiration

Life is full of things to inspire us. Whether it is children making beautiful music with instruments made out of things thrown in the landfill, a man who makes art by balancing rocks, someone who can fly kites as if they were birds soaring together on the wind, or anything else that you find inspirational, pay attention to it and allow it to fill you with its energy.

Unfortunately, our news media bombards us with bad news. Stories about evil, violence, destruction, poverty, and death are much more prominent in the media than stories that uplift us. For that reason, we must each constantly seek our own source of inspiration.

Luckily, there is much to inspire us. I saw a story about a handicapped lion who has a dachshund for his best friend that inspired me. The  dachshund had sensed that the lion was handicapped, and spent time comforting it. And now the lion, who weighs about 500 pounds cuddles with the 8 pound dachshund.

There are stories about people who find someone’s wallet or purse, and return it without taking anything. My own grandmother, who was poor herself, kept the back door of her small house in a small Kansas town unlocked, so anyone who was hungry could get something to eat. Whatever she had she would share with others. She never had a lot – no steaks, no shrimp, no caviar, no fancy food at all. She might have a pot of beans, or perhaps some chicken and noodles, but whatever she had she would share with others.

Her compassion and kindness is an inspiration to me to this day. She passed in 1990, but I think of her every day. When she died, over 300 people attended her funeral. This was in a town of only about 1500 people.

I find stories of kindness, generosity, compassion, and sharing with others to be extremely inspirational and uplifting. Pay more attention to those kinds of stories then to the poisonous stories the news throws at you every night.

Finding Equilibrium

The past year, for many people I know (including myself) has been about facing big challenges and losses — then finding some equilibrium among the remains. I went through some health challenges for several months last year. I had problems keeping food down. My gall bladder was in full rebellion. For over a month, I was too sick to sit at my computer and write posts.

Before I felt fully recovered, I had to make emergency trips to Kansas to care for my mother. She died in September of leukemia. It was two days before my birthday. I was raw and fragile from the experience for quite awhile. Then, I heard news about people I didn’t know that affected me deeply. Even though I did not know them, I felt a personal sense of loss. I know that some of that sense of loss was because I was (and am) still in the midst of grieving for my mother.

Steve Jobs died on October 5. The news, though not unexpected, caused me to sense a deep loss. I admired many things about Steve Jobs. I have been a Mac user for a long time. I have not used any other platform since 1988. I write my blog on a Mac, I write and layout books on a Mac, I edit sound and video on a Mac and I even do astrology on a Mac. Almost everything I do for my livelihood is done on a Mac, so the passing of the visionary who created my tools was deeply felt.

Then, Jerry Hicks died on November 18 of leukemia. Continue reading

Transitioning From This Life

It has been almost two weeks since my mother passed from this life. I was with her for the final week 24 hours a day, seven days a week. She lived in another state from me, so I wasn’t with her on a regular basis.

When I wrote my last post, I had been in Kansas for about nine days taking care of my mother. When that time ended, we thought she was out of the woods and on the mend. But, it wasn’t too much longer until I got emergency phone calls and the final phone call that she needed to be in hospice.

That last week was a difficult week in many ways. And it was a magnificent gift. I loved my mother, as I’m sure almost everyone does. But, I didn’t always like her. She was very judgmental, racist, and always quick to tell you what was wrong with everyone. When she was alive, I often felt negative thoughts toward her because of her anger and judgmentalness. In effect, I was being angry and judgmental at her because she was being angry and judgmental at other people.

During that last week, because we knew the time was short, I didn’t find myself getting caught up in her negativity. It was still there, to be sure. But, I realized that this was truly the last time I was going to have with her here on this physical plane. I was not going to waste any of that time getting wrapped up in her negativity, or judging her negativity.

As she progressed from being lucid to being unresponsive, I found myself thinking about some of those big questions. What is life, anyway? What is consciousness? When she was dying, did the part of her that was ego – personality based give way to a higher conscious self?

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Become More Effective by Finding Peace

Everyone is multi-tasking these days. They are tethered to their “Crackberries,” iPhones, iPads, smart phones and computers, so they are sending eMails at all hours. Even when they are supposed to be “at leisure,” they are mailing and texting during meals at restaurants, movies, baseball games, family outings, while driving, during classroom lectures, in the bathroom (both public and private), and in some cases, even during sex.

Years ago, there was a promise that technology would make us more productive. There are some ways in which it has made us more productive — I can edit this article without having to type it over from scratch, as I would have done before word processing programs existed. I can sell my domain names to people halfway around the world by using the internet, eMail and PayPal.

But there is a dark side — technology has enabled “spammers” to fill our in boxes with masses of junk. In some cases, the junk mail is so overwhelming that it causes people to lose their important messages among the spam.

Technology promised to give us more leisure time, as well. Presumably, the more leisure time was a result of having gotten all of our work done earlier than before. However — studies have shown that people (who are fortunate enough to have a job these days) are working more hours than ever. Obviously, in the workplace, one must do the bidding and put out all the little “fires” that the employer commands. But it is well documented that people end up doing a lot of things poorly when required to multi-task all the time. The human brain is not structured for it.

Yesterday, I saw a woman walking through a traffic-filled parking lot into a store. She had a baby cradled in her right arm, a toddler by the hand with her left arm, and her neck was bent to hold the cell phone between her ear and shoulder so she could carry on a conversation. There is no way she was giving adequate attention to either child. She was not watching for traffic as she crossed. But she was deeply engaged in a phone call that pulled most of her attention elsewhere.

The sad thing is that most people are unaware that they are performing poorly on multiple tasks. They don’t have that insight because too much of their brain is occupied trying to multi-task. And it is becoming evident that all of these short bursts of technological communication are making many people attention deficient.

What is the answer to this dilemma? Continue reading

Forgiveness Moves Us Forward

Forgiveness is an important building block for us to make progress in our lives. When I hear someone say “I can forgive but I’ll never forget,” I don’t believe they have really forgiven. The “I’ll never forget” part often means that a person is still hanging on to a grudge. If that person is still hanging onto a grudge, then that person has not truly forgiven.

One of my very favorite quotes all time came from Swami Muktananda. He said, “You have to keep forgiving until you realize there was nothing to forgive.” This is such a powerful statement when you think of what it really means. If you believe like I do, that we create our own reality, and the law of attraction is one of those ways in which we create it, then you understand that any perceived “wrong” done by another is something you attracted and created in your life. Why should you be angry and unforgiving of someone you attracted into your life?

I know this is a hard concept to accept, as we can perceive many terrible “wrongs” that we think other people are doing. I myself tend to get wrapped up in stories about things like animal cruelty, child molesting, rape, murder, etc. Even though I know that people attract all of those things to themselves, I still at times feel the injustice of it all. That’s because I get caught up in the notion that there is a certain way things are supposed to be.

It would be nice if we could all live in a world where everybody treats each other with compassion and kindness, with love and respect, and honoring the source within us all. But, obviously there are many people who seem to be incapable of doing such things.

My ex-husband left me for another woman in 2007. For a while, I played the role of victim and felt very negative feelings toward my ex-husband and his lover. But I finally realized I had attracted the situation into my life so that I would end a marriage that was not giving me any moral support at all. Then I understood that all of the hurt I went through was because I would not have had the nerve to end my unhappy relationship myself because of fear. I was afraid of being alone. I have a neuromuscular disease which makes it hard for me to do certain things and I was afraid of being alone without any help. (Though the fact is that my ex-husband was rarely around, and when he was he was not willing to help me very much at all.)

I was also afraid of not having enough money to survive. Clearly, I was not trusting Source to deliver a replacement for my husband’s paycheck. When I am being lucid, I know that my husband’s paycheck was not my real source of support. My real source of support is Source.

The relationship needed a drastic jolt in order for it to end. I realize now that my ex-husband’s relationship with the other woman allowed me to get out of an unhappy relationship. I have forgiven them both and I have moved on. In fact I have realized that there’s nothing to forgive.

Yes, I went through some difficult times at first. I had not lived alone for so long, that I had to learn how to do that again. I had to face some fears, and I had to know that Source has my back.

I found a very nice video on YouTube about the importance of forgiveness and how it lets us release the past that is often holding us back from making progress in our lives. I hope you enjoy this as much as I did.

Text Copyright © 2011 by Victoria Young

End of Year Ritual

Everybody is familiar with the New Year Rituals — making resolutions to lose weight, quit smoking, be a better person, get a better job, etc. But, it seems to me that the sudden turning to “what’s next” without taking care of “what’s past” causes old issues to come up again — soon after the shine has worn off the New Year.

Those old energies can be like troublesome relatives or acquaintances. The New Year arrives and you move to get away from the negative energy of those people. You are ready to start new and fresh, with a clean slate. You didn’t tell those people your new address.

Even though you didn’t tell them where you live, they find you anyway and cause the same old trouble — or — you meet new people who behave in the same ways. You just can’t seem to get rid of that energy for long because you did not take the time to deal with it before setting out on the new path.

I developed an End of Year Ritual to clean up the old energies before going forward into the New Year. I find it is very helpful in tying up the old loose ends that can trip you up like un-tied shoes. Click the link to read the ritual process. Continue reading

Rules of the Game — Part Three

3. The people who decide to make their own rules and take responsibility for the reality they create.

These people understand that all “rules” are artificial creations that result from a person’s beliefs becoming harder and more solidified. What ever you believe, whether it is supported by hope or fear, will dominate your life and appear real. It will become an opportunity or an obstacle, depending on the emotion you charge it with.

This approach to life is much more powerful than types one and two. It recognizes that all rules are basically arbitrary. Whether the rule is something like “you can’t wear white after Labor Day” or the various rules of games or was that are still on the books of most U. S. States (visit http://www.bitoffun.com/stupid_laws.htm) for examples) or the rules that say members of various religions are required to cut their hair, grow their hair, cover their hair, etc.

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Rules of the Game — Part Two

2. The people who want to find find out what all the “rules” are so they can BREAK them.

These are people who have major issues with authority. They don’t care who the authority is, they just don’t want to be subject to someone else’s rules.

As a teenager, I did the “rebellion-as-rite-of-passage” routine. I didn’t trust anyone over 30. I saw all rules as bogus ways to to repress the creativity and freedom of young people. I’m part of the generation that rebelled politically in 1968, held Woodstock in 1969 and marched against the War our leaders pursued in the 60s and 70s. Rebellion and questioning authority were predominant themes during my teens and twenties.

A good side of this approach is that it fosters freedom, openness, creativity and breakthroughs. Continue reading