The Gift of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful things we can ever do. True forgiveness involves reclaiming your own power. The person whom you are forgiving is a person you have been granting an unreasonable amount of power over you. I remember a friend of mine who was raised by an alcoholic father, who constantly went on and on about how he had ruined her life. This woman was 55 years old. She had not seen her father in more than 30 years. He had been dead for 20 years. And yet, she was still giving him power over her happiness. She was blaming him for the unhappiness that she still had in her life.

I’m not saying that her father did not mistreat her and her mother. From her stories, I know that he truly made her life miserable. However she has continued to make herself miserable by clinging to memories of those old events and not forgiving him.

If she had been able to forgive him and move forward, she would’ve reclaimed her own power over her happiness. Her happiness is her responsibility, not the responsibility of a man who has been dead for 20 years. If she ever realizes that, her capacity for happiness will be enormous.

My own mother had never forgiven my father for his cruelty to the day she died in 2011. My father had died in 1982 and my parents had been divorced since 1967. And during all of those years, my mother’s bitterness toward my father never waned. Needless to say, she was a very unhappy person most of the time. When you allow yourself to feel bitterness towards another person, that bitterness spills over into the rest of your life and poisons it in a way that severely reduces your ability to be happy.

Is has been said many times, that “the moment of power is now.” What that means is that it is only in the present, right here, right now, that you can exercise your power to change your life. The past is gone. The future has not yet arrived. You cannot operate from a point of power in either the past or the future. If you are allowing your grudges and negative feelings to keep you in the past, you are keeping yourself from the now. You are keeping yourself from the only place where you can exercise real power.

The biggest gift that forgiveness brings is not to the person being forgiven. It is the gift of freedom to the person doing the forgiving. When you truly forgive, you are free to move forward. You are no longer tied to that heavy anchor of blame that holds you back. When we give up all of the grudges and bad feelings that we hold for others, it is very much like shedding hundreds of pounds of weight.

You can give yourself this gift right now. Start forgiving everyone for everything. Especially forgive yourself. Forgive your parents. Forgive your siblings. Forgive your children. Forgive your grandparents. Forgive your coworkers. Forgive the politicians and news media. Forgive everyone for everything. When you step into your power by releasing all of that negativity, you will realize there was nothing to forgive. And the fact that you have forgiven is a great gift for you, as it releases everything that was holding you back.

Meditation Sound

As most of you know, many sounds have a vibrational quality that is soothing or agitating or even healing. Some people use music to put themselves in a good mood. Others may use music to relieve stress. Various sounds have the ability to change our moods, and even our blood pressure.

I have met people at metaphysical conferences who use music, sounds, and similar modalities to help people heal. If you consider that everything in existence is vibration, then you must acknowledge that vibration can produce results.

I found this nifty video that has wonderful meditation music for deep relaxation or sleep..

They claim this sound resonates to your 7 chakras. They say it also boosts dopamine in the brain. If this is true, spending a few minutes looking at the image and listening to the sound can give you a real brain boost. I wonder if people who have Parkinson’s disease have tried this with any positive results?

At any rate, I found this very soothing to listen to (and quite hypnotic). I hope you will find it pleasant, as well.

Finding Equilibrium

The past year, for many people I know (including myself) has been about facing big challenges and losses — then finding some equilibrium among the remains. I went through some health challenges for several months last year. I had problems keeping food down. My gall bladder was in full rebellion. For over a month, I was too sick to sit at my computer and write posts.

Before I felt fully recovered, I had to make emergency trips to Kansas to care for my mother. She died in September of leukemia. It was two days before my birthday. I was raw and fragile from the experience for quite awhile. Then, I heard news about people I didn’t know that affected me deeply. Even though I did not know them, I felt a personal sense of loss. I know that some of that sense of loss was because I was (and am) still in the midst of grieving for my mother.

Steve Jobs died on October 5. The news, though not unexpected, caused me to sense a deep loss. I admired many things about Steve Jobs. I have been a Mac user for a long time. I have not used any other platform since 1988. I write my blog on a Mac, I write and layout books on a Mac, I edit sound and video on a Mac and I even do astrology on a Mac. Almost everything I do for my livelihood is done on a Mac, so the passing of the visionary who created my tools was deeply felt.

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New Years Bring New Opportunities

Every new year sees us making resolutions about things we want to change, or do differently in the future. Obviously, a new year is no different from a new day or a new hour. We can choose any moment in our lives to go forward in a new fashion.

We don’t have to wait for a new year to start a new life. Every single moment we have in the now is an opportunity to change our lives. However, many people see New Year’s, birthdays and other anniversaries as points of new beginnings. Whether it is for the new year or just because you’ve decided to change your life, you can start a new here and now.

I suggest that you sit down and make a list of the things you would like to change in your life. Perhaps make two columns; one column for how things are now and the second column for how you want them to be. If your list is long, try to only tackle one or two things at a time. Once you get those things under control, then address a new item on the list.

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Become More Effective by Finding Peace

Everyone is multi-tasking these days. They are tethered to their “Crackberries,” iPhones, iPads, smart phones and computers, so they are sending eMails at all hours. Even when they are supposed to be “at leisure,” they are mailing and texting during meals at restaurants, movies, baseball games, family outings, while driving, during classroom lectures, in the bathroom (both public and private), and in some cases, even during sex.

Years ago, there was a promise that technology would make us more productive. There are some ways in which it has made us more productive — I can edit this article without having to type it over from scratch, as I would have done before word processing programs existed. I can sell my domain names to people halfway around the world by using the internet, eMail and PayPal.

But there is a dark side — technology has enabled “spammers” to fill our in boxes with masses of junk. In some cases, the junk mail is so overwhelming that it causes people to lose their important messages among the spam.

Technology promised to give us more leisure time, as well. Presumably, the more leisure time was a result of having gotten all of our work done earlier than before. However — studies have shown that people (who are fortunate enough to have a job these days) are working more hours than ever. Obviously, in the workplace, one must do the bidding and put out all the little “fires” that the employer commands. But it is well documented that people end up doing a lot of things poorly when required to multi-task all the time. The human brain is not structured for it.

Yesterday, I saw a woman walking through a traffic-filled parking lot into a store. She had a baby cradled in her right arm, a toddler by the hand with her left arm, and her neck was bent to hold the cell phone between her ear and shoulder so she could carry on a conversation. There is no way she was giving adequate attention to either child. She was not watching for traffic as she crossed. But she was deeply engaged in a phone call that pulled most of her attention elsewhere.

The sad thing is that most people are unaware that they are performing poorly on multiple tasks. They don’t have that insight because too much of their brain is occupied trying to multi-task. And it is becoming evident that all of these short bursts of technological communication are making many people attention deficient.

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Thanksgiving – George Winston

Once again we are celebrating Thanksgiving in the United States. It is a long tradition of turkey, stuffing and various casseroles consumed by various families with different traditions. Eating too much, taking a nap and perhaps a family squabble or two thrown in.

I like the idea of stopping and appreciating, being grateful for how wonderful our lives are. We have created this complex illusion out of consciousness. We should express our gratitude for this reality we’ve created — the joyous parts and the parts that have given us pause. The negative parts show us what we don’t want so we can work on creating differently.

All of our creation is a testament to our magnificence and the magnificence of Consciousness.

I invite you to watch/listen to this beautiful music video and think of the many things in your life for which you can give your thanks.

Text copyright © 2010 by Victoria Young

10 Minutes to Happiness

How do you go from unhappy to happy? I mean TRULY go from unhappy to happy. Not from unhappy because I don’t have much money to happy because I won the lottery. Not from unhappy because he hasn’t called to happy because I’m talking to him. Not from unhappy because my job sucks to happy because I have a new job. Not even from unhappy because I’m overweight to happy because I’m slim.

I’m talking about the kind of happiness that comes from within. True happiness from within happens because the greater part of yourself that still resides in Source is allowed to express.

As Guidance has told us many times, we are pure Source energy. A portion of that pure Source energy has condensed down into our bodies, minds, personalities, etc. However, the vast portion of who we are remains in the invisible vibrational energy realm as Source itself. That part of us (some call it the Soul or the Higher Self or God) is pure joy and happiness. That part of us is not at all concerned with the daily grievances we process. That part of us is unconditional.

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The Joy of Thinking Less

Almost all of us are burdened with thinking too much. I myself attained a fifth-degree black-belt equivalent in thinking too much. I thought all the time. I had my ego tied up in being an intellectual, which I thought was a good thing.

I believed that my ability to think “in-depth” about things, know the history and inter-relationships of things gave me value. I was always trying to figure everything out. Always wanting to be ready with the answers if someone asked.

About 25 years ago someone said to me that not everyone had a zillion thoughts in their mind all of the time. How could someone not think all the time? It was a concept I could not ‘grok.’

Until I stuck to a regular meditation practice and witnessed a calming mind within.

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Get Out of Your Own Way

Get Out of Your Own Way.” The first time someone said this to me more than 30 years ago, I didn’t understand what he was saying. I was fully embedded in thinking myself into solutions, thinking myself out of problems. I could not see how I was standing in my own way.

I thought all of the thinking hard to figure things out, the working hard, the struggling to get what I wanted were not only how I obtained goals, but how I proved that I was worthy of obtaining them. If I needed to prove I was worthy, then clearly I did not believe I was worthy. I was trying to make things happen because I subconsciously believed I had to push to overcome my unworthiness.

In addition, all of the hard work and struggle were based on a deep seated belief in limitation. If you have to struggle so hard, it’s because things don’t come easily, right?

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You Can Heal Yourself

These videos are from a presentation by Dr. Wayne Dyer and Dr. Bruce Lipton done by Hay House. These guys are two of my favorite authors. They talk about various scientific discoveries that further support the roles of Mind and Thought in healing.

Everything in your Mind can fix everything in your body. Your Mind creates the environment for your cells. What you believe about your body and your health is important!

I love these videos! They act as nice, succinct reminders about how powerful we really are. I hope you love them, too.

Part 1

Part 2

Copyright © 2010 by Victoria Young