The Gift of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful things we can ever do. True forgiveness involves reclaiming your own power. The person whom you are forgiving is a person you have been granting an unreasonable amount of power over you. I remember a friend of mine who was raised by an alcoholic father, who constantly went on and on about how he had ruined her life. This woman was 55 years old. She had not seen her father in more than 30 years. He had been dead for 20 years. And yet, she was still giving him power over her happiness. She was blaming him for the unhappiness that she still had in her life.

I’m not saying that her father did not mistreat her and her mother. From her stories, I know that he truly made her life miserable. However she has continued to make herself miserable by clinging to memories of those old events and not forgiving him.

If she had been able to forgive him and move forward, she would’ve reclaimed her own power over her happiness. Her happiness is her responsibility, not the responsibility of a man who has been dead for 20 years. If she ever realizes that, her capacity for happiness will be enormous.

My own mother had never forgiven my father for his cruelty to the day she died in 2011. My father had died in 1982 and my parents had been divorced since 1967. And during all of those years, my mother’s bitterness toward my father never waned. Needless to say, she was a very unhappy person most of the time. When you allow yourself to feel bitterness towards another person, that bitterness spills over into the rest of your life and poisons it in a way that severely reduces your ability to be happy.

Is has been said many times, that “the moment of power is now.” What that means is that it is only in the present, right here, right now, that you can exercise your power to change your life. The past is gone. The future has not yet arrived. You cannot operate from a point of power in either the past or the future. If you are allowing your grudges and negative feelings to keep you in the past, you are keeping yourself from the now. You are keeping yourself from the only place where you can exercise real power.

The biggest gift that forgiveness brings is not to the person being forgiven. It is the gift of freedom to the person doing the forgiving. When you truly forgive, you are free to move forward. You are no longer tied to that heavy anchor of blame that holds you back. When we give up all of the grudges and bad feelings that we hold for others, it is very much like shedding hundreds of pounds of weight.

You can give yourself this gift right now. Start forgiving everyone for everything. Especially forgive yourself. Forgive your parents. Forgive your siblings. Forgive your children. Forgive your grandparents. Forgive your coworkers. Forgive the politicians and news media. Forgive everyone for everything. When you step into your power by releasing all of that negativity, you will realize there was nothing to forgive. And the fact that you have forgiven is a great gift for you, as it releases everything that was holding you back.

Finding Equilibrium

The past year, for many people I know (including myself) has been about facing big challenges and losses — then finding some equilibrium among the remains. I went through some health challenges for several months last year. I had problems keeping food down. My gall bladder was in full rebellion. For over a month, I was too sick to sit at my computer and write posts.

Before I felt fully recovered, I had to make emergency trips to Kansas to care for my mother. She died in September of leukemia. It was two days before my birthday. I was raw and fragile from the experience for quite awhile. Then, I heard news about people I didn’t know that affected me deeply. Even though I did not know them, I felt a personal sense of loss. I know that some of that sense of loss was because I was (and am) still in the midst of grieving for my mother.

Steve Jobs died on October 5. The news, though not unexpected, caused me to sense a deep loss. I admired many things about Steve Jobs. I have been a Mac user for a long time. I have not used any other platform since 1988. I write my blog on a Mac, I write and layout books on a Mac, I edit sound and video on a Mac and I even do astrology on a Mac. Almost everything I do for my livelihood is done on a Mac, so the passing of the visionary who created my tools was deeply felt.

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Forgiveness Moves Us Forward

Forgiveness is an important building block for us to make progress in our lives. When I hear someone say “I can forgive but I’ll never forget,” I don’t believe they have really forgiven. The “I’ll never forget” part often means that a person is still hanging on to a grudge. If that person is still hanging onto a grudge, then that person has not truly forgiven.

One of my very favorite quotes all time came from Swami Muktananda. He said, “You have to keep forgiving until you realize there was nothing to forgive.” This is such a powerful statement when you think of what it really means. If you believe like I do, that we create our own reality, and the law of attraction is one of those ways in which we create it, then you understand that any perceived “wrong” done by another is something you attracted and created in your life. Why should you be angry and unforgiving of someone you attracted into your life?

I know this is a hard concept to accept, as we can perceive many terrible “wrongs” that we think other people are doing. I myself tend to get wrapped up in stories about things like animal cruelty, child molesting, rape, murder, etc. Even though I know that people attract all of those things to themselves, I still at times feel the injustice of it all. That’s because I get caught up in the notion that there is a certain way things are supposed to be.

It would be nice if we could all live in a world where everybody treats each other with compassion and kindness, with love and respect, and honoring the source within us all. But, obviously there are many people who seem to be incapable of doing such things.

My ex-husband left me for another woman in 2007. For a while, I played the role of victim and felt very negative feelings toward my ex-husband and his lover. But I finally realized I had attracted the situation into my life so that I would end a marriage that was not giving me any moral support at all. Then I understood that all of the hurt I went through was because I would not have had the nerve to end my unhappy relationship myself because of fear. I was afraid of being alone. I have a neuromuscular disease which makes it hard for me to do certain things and I was afraid of being alone without any help. (Though the fact is that my ex-husband was rarely around, and when he was he was not willing to help me very much at all.)

I was also afraid of not having enough money to survive. Clearly, I was not trusting Source to deliver a replacement for my husband’s paycheck. When I am being lucid, I know that my husband’s paycheck was not my real source of support. My real source of support is Source.

The relationship needed a drastic jolt in order for it to end. I realize now that my ex-husband’s relationship with the other woman allowed me to get out of an unhappy relationship. I have forgiven them both and I have moved on. In fact I have realized that there’s nothing to forgive.

Yes, I went through some difficult times at first. I had not lived alone for so long, that I had to learn how to do that again. I had to face some fears, and I had to know that Source has my back.

I found a very nice video on YouTube about the importance of forgiveness and how it lets us release the past that is often holding us back from making progress in our lives. I hope you enjoy this as much as I did.

Text Copyright © 2011 by Victoria Young

On the HoloDeck

You are the master and creator of your HoloDeck and all of the virtual experiences, running as programs on your HoloDeck. They seem so real to you that you call them your life experience.

A common question from people who come for readings is, “How can I learn to create my reality?” Guidance always says you cannot learn it. You cannot learn what you already know. You cannot learn it because you are already doing it — every second, every minute, every day, every situation.

What you can learn is to pay attention to how you do it. Pay attention to the repeating patterns in your life. Especially the ones you are trying to prevent or the things you are trying to avoid. The repeating patterns in your life are the programs you are running on your HoloDeck. Everything in your life is running on your HoloDeck, every experience, situation, observation is on your HoloDeck and the repeating patterns are the obvious evidence of it.

I knew a guy many years ago who kept having problems with burglaries and vandalism. Austin (not his real name) moved to a better neighborhood. Another burglary. Continue reading

The Joy of Thinking Less

Almost all of us are burdened with thinking too much. I myself attained a fifth-degree black-belt equivalent in thinking too much. I thought all the time. I had my ego tied up in being an intellectual, which I thought was a good thing.

I believed that my ability to think “in-depth” about things, know the history and inter-relationships of things gave me value. I was always trying to figure everything out. Always wanting to be ready with the answers if someone asked.

About 25 years ago someone said to me that not everyone had a zillion thoughts in their mind all of the time. How could someone not think all the time? It was a concept I could not ‘grok.’

Until I stuck to a regular meditation practice and witnessed a calming mind within.

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The Field of Infinite Potential

his is a channeled message I received recently:

Dear Ones,

There is a Field of Infinite Potential that exists beyond the perceptions of most people. This field is at the heart of Source. It is the place where worlds — and everything else — are created. Your scientists call it The Zero-Point Field or The Quantum Field. Your films refer to it as The Matrix.

This field is empty, yet it is the Source of all-that-is. It knows every thought that has ever been thought and every emotion that has ever been felt. Access to this field is very simple, though it is not always easy. Focused thought and belief are the keys to the field.

Do you realize that you have all of the tools necessary to create the life you desire? You have mind, thought and emotion. If you can slow down, pay attention, focus your thoughts deliberately, while letting go of resistance, you can access your greatest desires.

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Get Out of Your Own Way

Get Out of Your Own Way.” The first time someone said this to me more than 30 years ago, I didn’t understand what he was saying. I was fully embedded in thinking myself into solutions, thinking myself out of problems. I could not see how I was standing in my own way.

I thought all of the thinking hard to figure things out, the working hard, the struggling to get what I wanted were not only how I obtained goals, but how I proved that I was worthy of obtaining them. If I needed to prove I was worthy, then clearly I did not believe I was worthy. I was trying to make things happen because I subconsciously believed I had to push to overcome my unworthiness.

In addition, all of the hard work and struggle were based on a deep seated belief in limitation. If you have to struggle so hard, it’s because things don’t come easily, right?

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None of the Above – or What the Heck am I Creating Here?

I’m sure our readers are wondering what happened to our articles. Did we fall into a black hole? Did we get bored and just give up? The answer is “C — None of the above.”

Shirlyn has been occupied with a family emergency and she is in the midst of creating her own web presence, which we will announce when it is up and running.

And I had a cold (I don’t think it was flu…) that sapped my energy. It set me back because I had let a lot of chores go — only the absolutely necessary ones, like feed the cats, clean their litter boxes, fix myself something to eat — got done.

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Affirmations – 7 Steps to Make Them Work – Part 2

In part 1, I gave you some sample affirmations and started explaining the seven steps that successful people use related to affirmations and changing their lives. I also covered the first three steps:

  • Make Peace with Where You Are
  • Practice Forgiveness
  • Repetition Helps You Start to Internalize It

Here are the remaining steps to help you successfully use affirmations to improve your life.

Move Your Attention From “What Is” to “What Can Be”
When you first start saying affirmations, it can feel like they are untrue. After all, you are affirming (saying) something that does not appear to be true right now. Saying the affirmation “I have lots of money” when you know your bank account only contains five dollars can feel like a lie.

Try to remember that the current condition of “I only have five dollars” will be perpetuated if you keep thinking that, even though it appears to be true at this point in time. Paying attention to and thinking about “what is” will only cause it to continue. Saying a positive affirmation, even if it does not currently seem to be true is an important step toward bridging from only having five dollars to having lots of money.

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Affirmations – 7 Steps to Make Them Work – Part 1

I’ve known lots of people who tried affirmations to no avail.
For those new to this, an affirmation is a positive, present-tense statement about something you want to create in your life. Here are a few examples:

Money comes easily to me.
I am healthy, whole and complete.
I am loving and lovable.
I am thankful for my new job.
My romantic partner is loving and kind.
I am the perfect weight for my height.
My life flows easily.
People are friendly and helpful.
My life is full of joy.
My income is constantly increasing.
People appreciate my contributions.
I am successful.
I love myself the way I am.

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