Forgiveness is an important building block for us to make progress in our lives. When I hear someone say “I can forgive but I’ll never forget,” I don’t believe they have really forgiven. The “I’ll never forget” part often means that a person is still hanging on to a grudge. If that person is still hanging onto a grudge, then that person has not truly forgiven.
One of my very favorite quotes all time came from Swami Muktananda. He said, “You have to keep forgiving until you realize there was nothing to forgive.” This is such a powerful statement when you think of what it really means. If you believe like I do, that we create our own reality, and the law of attraction is one of those ways in which we create it, then you understand that any perceived “wrong” done by another is something you attracted and created in your life. Why should you be angry and unforgiving of someone you attracted into your life?
I know this is a hard concept to accept, as we can perceive many terrible “wrongs” that we think other people are doing. I myself tend to get wrapped up in stories about things like animal cruelty, child molesting, rape, murder, etc. Even though I know that people attract all of those things to themselves, I still at times feel the injustice of it all. That’s because I get caught up in the notion that there is a certain way things are supposed to be.
It would be nice if we could all live in a world where everybody treats each other with compassion and kindness, with love and respect, and honoring the source within us all. But, obviously there are many people who seem to be incapable of doing such things.
My ex-husband left me for another woman in 2007. For a while, I played the role of victim and felt very negative feelings toward my ex-husband and his lover. But I finally realized I had attracted the situation into my life so that I would end a marriage that was not giving me any moral support at all. Then I understood that all of the hurt I went through was because I would not have had the nerve to end my unhappy relationship myself because of fear. I was afraid of being alone. I have a neuromuscular disease which makes it hard for me to do certain things and I was afraid of being alone without any help. (Though the fact is that my ex-husband was rarely around, and when he was he was not willing to help me very much at all.)
I was also afraid of not having enough money to survive. Clearly, I was not trusting Source to deliver a replacement for my husband’s paycheck. When I am being lucid, I know that my husband’s paycheck was not my real source of support. My real source of support is Source.
The relationship needed a drastic jolt in order for it to end. I realize now that my ex-husband’s relationship with the other woman allowed me to get out of an unhappy relationship. I have forgiven them both and I have moved on. In fact I have realized that there’s nothing to forgive.
Yes, I went through some difficult times at first. I had not lived alone for so long, that I had to learn how to do that again. I had to face some fears, and I had to know that Source has my back.
I found a very nice video on YouTube about the importance of forgiveness and how it lets us release the past that is often holding us back from making progress in our lives. I hope you enjoy this as much as I did.
Text Copyright © 2011 by Victoria Young