Rules of the Game — Part Three

3. The people who decide to make their own rules and take responsibility for the reality they create.

These people understand that all “rules” are artificial creations that result from a person’s beliefs becoming harder and more solidified. What ever you believe, whether it is supported by hope or fear, will dominate your life and appear real. It will become an opportunity or an obstacle, depending on the emotion you charge it with.

This approach to life is much more powerful than types one and two. It recognizes that all rules are basically arbitrary. Whether the rule is something like “you can’t wear white after Labor Day” or the various rules of games or was that are still on the books of most U. S. States (visit for examples) or the rules that say members of various religions are required to cut their hair, grow their hair, cover their hair, etc.

There are dietary rules and forbidden foods that vary by religion and culture. Each group says theirs are directly from God, yet each one is different from the next. Hindus have rules against eating animals or fish, Muslims and Jews have rules against eating pork, Catholics used to ban meat on Fridays and during Lent, but the rest of the time it was fine.

In the U.S., we drive on the right side of the road, but in the U.K., they drive on the left. As you see, I’ve used some examples to show that there really aren’t any universal rules. I personally believe that many of the civil laws are good, like everybody driving on the same side of the street in a particular place, stopping at red lights and stop signs, bans on killing and battery, bans on stealing and perjury, etc. because these laws allow us to have a less chaotic society. With less chaos, we can be more creative and productive.

However, there are millions of other “rules” that are clearly optional. And the paradigms that go with them. It is possible to live in a “reality” (illusion of reality — we actually create all of the “reality” with our consciousness). When Einstein said the most important decision we’ll ever make is whether we live in a friendly universe or a hostile universe, he understood that it is our consciousness that constructs this illusion we call “reality.” If you believe your world is friendly, then you experience easy situations, helpful people, fortunate synchronicity and general “good luck.” If you believe your world is hostile, you will experience difficulties, obstacles, nefarious people, danger, threats and generally unsafe conditions.

If you don’t believe that reality is entirely subjective, just take a look at the political rhetoric being thrown about in the 2010 U. S. election season. There are people who believe the government does good and protective things, such as provide social security and medicare, protect the food supply, secure our borders, provide unemployment insurance, etc. And there are people looking at the very same government who believe it is evil and must be stopped because it “steals” our money (through taxation) and fritters it away on unnecessary projects. For each group, their beliefs and and the “reality” that springs forth from those beliefs is absolutely true.

So, when one takes the third path, (s)he can DECIDE on the reality (s)he wants and modify thoughts and beliefs accordingly. I’ve heard people such as Jack Canfield talk about the beliefs of scarcity, unhappiness and hard life that were passed on by his father. And yet, he reached a point where he was able to alter his reality to one of prosperity and happiness. I was raised by parents who were deeply unhappy, expressed rage often and struggled with scarcity. And I reached a point in my life where I realized I had learned my reality from my parents and that I could “unlearn” it and choose a different reality.

I am still a work-in-progress, but I choose a friendly universe where I have plenty of good fortune and opportunity.

Copyright © 2010 by Victoria Young