This Illusion Called Life

I received this message from my Guidance on February 23, 2006.

It is with great pleasure that we meet with you again today.

We wish to speak with you about this illusion called life. We know that for many of you, it is difficult to accept the concept that your life is an illusion. Perhaps if we describe from our viewpoint, we will clarify it a little more.

When we refer to it all as an illusion, we mean it is an illusion which you have created. Many spiritual traditions speak of the world within you. They say that everything you think is out there in the world, separate from you is actually contained within you. One way to express this would be to the fact that every thing you see is a reflection of your beliefs. If you do not accept this, just pay attention to all of the different ways people see the world. You all watch the same circumstances occur around the world and yet each of you has a different interpretation of what is going on. Each of you have created your own illusion.

The reason so many of you disagree about what is really going on is that each of you is coming from a different belief system or point of view. Even when you seem to come from similar belief systems such as a Christian belief or a Muslim belief, or American or Chinese, you will find that within those groups that there are many things upon which they do not agree.

We see Christian groups who do not believe in evolution. We see other Christian groups who do believe in the evolution. We see Americans who believe that the government is good, and that it exists to take care of you. We see other Americans who believe that the government is evil and that there is a plot to take away your freedoms. All of these differing viewpoints occur from people who are looking at the very same circumstances. The only difference he is that each of you is filtering the meaning of all of this through your own beliefs.

Every belief you have creates a filter. Every filter you have interprets your reality. Why do some people believe in God? Why are some people Atheists? Is there one of God or are there many gods? And if you ask several people this question, you will likely get several different answers. And you will also find that the reality for each of those persons is based on those beliefs.

Quite literally, everything you see “out there” is a projection of everything you believe “in here.” Do you believe the world is a safe place? Do you believe people are kind and supportive? We are certain that if this is your belief, this is what you experience in your life.

Do you believe the world is a difficult or even dangerous place? Do you believe that people are unkind and cannot be trusted? We are certain that if this is your belief, this is what you experience in your life.

Those of you who believe that there is an objective world out there, independent of yourself, that has existed long before you were born, and will continue to exist long after you are gone, struggle the most with these notions.

You will argue that the experience begets the thought. You will say that you have experienced people being kind (or unkind) repeatedly and it is that experience that has shaped your beliefs. But we will tell you that thoughts came first, and thoughts which you have over and over become beliefs. And beliefs create your experience in a number of ways.

Firstly, through the filter process.
The easiest way to see that beliefs create reality, is the one we have been describing, in which a person’s beliefs become his filter, which then creates his experience. Imagine two people who live in the same neighborhood. The neighborhood is tired and could use some work to make it look and feel attractive and welcoming. A local politician has attained some grant money to help fix the neighborhood, but the residents must do a portion of the labor themselves in order to qualify.

One of the two people believes in a kind world. Her response is to be joyful and grateful for this kind politician who has arranged an opportunity to make her life better. The other person believes in a harsh world where people cannot be trusted. Her response is to be suspicious of this crafty politician and wonder what dishonest motive is behind this scam he is perpetrating on the neighborhood.

For each of them, their world seems very real. It does not feel like an illusion or one of many possible interpretations of the same circumstances. Yet that is exactly what it is – an experience that springs from their beliefs.

Secondly, through the law of attraction.
You attract to yourself circumstances which serve to verify your beliefs. If you believe that bosses and other authority figures are not fair, you will attract jobs in which the bosses are unfair and unreasonable. If you believe that most people are prejudiced against your race, ethnic group, sex or other attributes, then you will attract bigots to confirm that belief. If you believe that money is scarce and hard-to-get, then your life will be filled with struggle for money.

If you believe you are unlucky, then surely you are. If you believe you are lucky, then you expect to win or get that special break to help you out. And your experience does not disappoint. If you confused and unclear and you want to know what it is that you truly expect out of life, look at your circumstances right now. For they surely are exactly what you have created from your beliefs.

At the root is your beliefs about yourself.
When you look at your beliefs about the world – whether it is safe or dangerous, abundant or limited, exciting or depressing or anything else, it becomes critical to look at your beliefs about yourself. Your beliefs about yourself become the basis of your beliefs about the world.

Do you believe you deserve good experiences in your life? Do you believe you are good enough? Do you believe you are smart enough? Do you believe you are attractive enough? Do you believe you are honest or not-so-honest? Do you believe you are industrious or lazy? Do you believe you are lovable? Do you believe you have too many shameful secrets to be lovable? Do you believe you are a sinner who must pay for your sins?

Usually, a person’s deeply held beliefs about himself are repressed and hidden, for most people do not think kindly of themselves. They have had negative programming from birth and from tapping into the collective reality that says your essential nature is sinful, and you must struggle against your true nature or be doomed.

It is simply too painful to allow the awareness of your low self-esteem to float around at the surface of your consciousness. Instead, you will try to “compensate” for your perceived shortcomings by trying to convince others that you are better than you believe you are. You may try to be an over-achiever, or make sure you point out all of your accomplishments to others.

Or you may compensate by trying to point out everyone else’s weaknesses so that you feel better by comparison. Such people often resort to gossip as a means of trying to make themselves feel better.

Or you may choose to play victim. If you can blame others for your circumstances, then you can use that to “excuse” your behavior. Did someone treat you badly, giving you no choice but to retaliate? Did an outside influence tempt you to do things that you know are not for your highest good? Even when you are proclaiming your victimhood, you are trying to cover up what you truly believe about yourself at your deepest levels – that you are unworthy.

Or you may choose to quietly (or not-so-quietly) wallow in your low opinion of yourself. Perhaps you apologize for who you are or what you think are your shortcomings.

If you believe that you are not lovable and do not deserve kindness, then you will experience situations to reinforce that belief. Perhaps you recall meeting someone with very low self-opinion who was always apologizing or saying bad things about herself and you realized wanted to get away from her or even be rude to her. You were having trouble treating her respectfully. She was attracting that response from you to verify her belief that she is unworthy of kindness. Unfortunately, she no doubt attracted bad treatment from others and further verified to herself that she is unworthy.

Very simply, you create your reality based on what you believe you deserve. One of the most difficult things to do is to relinquish self-judgment. This is because you have built it up over time in many layers, like an onion. For many years, we have been giving the following affirmation for homework.

“I love myself.”
“I approve of myself.”

Say this to yourself over and over. Make it your mantra. Say it at least 500 times per day. It should require only 20 minutes or so to say it 500 times per day. Say it while you are having your shower. Say it while you are driving your car. This is much preferable to talking on your telephone. It is so easy to remember and to say.

“I love myself.”
“I approve of myself.”

“I love myself.”
“I approve of myself.”

“I love myself.”
“I approve of myself.”

This will facilitate the peeling of those layers of low self-esteem. Be diligent. 500 times per day for at least 21 days. You can say it silently in your mind when others are about. Say it aloud when you are alone, even if it is in a low voice or whisper.
After you peel some of your unloving onion, we will give you more exercises to improve your self image. When you do that, you will believe you deserve a better life.

When you believe you deserve a better life, your outlook will change.

When your outlook changes, what you are looking at changes. When you get a new viewpoint, the view will change.

You get what you believe is possible and what you believe you deserve. We will help you open up your possibilities and realize your divine spark. Please continue to love yourself.

Approve of yourself.

It is with great pleasure we have been speaking with you today.

Copyright © 2006 by Victoria Young